7 of the Most Common Job Search Mistakes

7 of the Most Common Job Search MistakesYouve been job searching for ageswhether for your first job or your fifteenth. But bedrngnishing seems to be coming together for you. Its always possible there might be something you are doing to hold yourself back. If in doubt, check yourself for these 7 commonjob searchmistakes. googletag.cmd.push(function() googletag.display(div-gpt-ad-1467144145037-0) ) 1. You have tunnel visionYou find yourself getting caught up in only one aspect of your job search, like the resume, or interview prep. Youre failing to grasp the overall picture, which is what you need to do in order to really excel. Manage your job search well and make sure youre devoting sufficient time and attention to all aspects of it, not just the one thing you think you have to nail. Trouble is, you have to nail all of it if you want to be successful in your search.2. You dont make your search apriorityYouve got your job search on the back burner, thinking if you stir the pan it onc e in a while, something will happen without your having to devote significant time or resources to the process. This is a mistake. There is never a convenient time to look for a new job. If you really want to find one, youll need to make your job search a major priority, no matter what else you have going on.3. You blast out applications but dont networkYoure blasting out applications by the dozens. Youve probably applied to over 100 jobs this month, maybe 200. But youre not getting any interviews. If youre blasting out this kind of quantity, youre probably focusing on online job postings, which is a mistake. You need to be doing the hard work of networking and building up your profiles on social media. You need to be doing mora homework. And getting more face time in your industry. So scale back the blitzes, and make your job search smaller but much more targeted. The difference will be clear.4. Your resume doesnt singRemember, recruiters spend an average of 6 seconds perusing each resume before tossing them into the proverbial shredder. If youre not making it absolutely easy for them to get all your greatest hits in those 6 minutes, then you need to revamp your resume until it sings. Showcase all of your best information up front. Use bullets if you need to. Dont bury the lead. And above all, make sure your formatting is clear and easy to readand can be read by the latest computer tracking systems.5. You wallow in your weak spotsCut yourself a little slack. Youre never going to be perfect. No one is. Stop fixating on what is wrong with you and start playing up your strengths. There has to be something you are good at. Go with that and have confidence in your abilities.6. Yourepeat the same job search mistakesNot learning from your mistakes will usually mean youll make more and more of them. If you keep running up against the same issues, then it might be time for some self-evaluation and humility. Figure out why youre stuck, then rectify. Learning from our m istakes is the only way to really make sure were moving forward.7. Youre doing it aloneJob searching takes a village. Dont try to do it all by yourself. Ask for help from your family, friends, and community. Take advantage of your support system. Theyll be useful in helping you mourn your setbacks, celebrating your victories, and sometimes even making valuable connections

No, Im Not Worried Someone Will Falsely Accuse My Son of Sexual Assault

No, Im Not Worried Someone Will Falsely Accuse My Son of Sexual Assault I have a 3-year-old son, so naturally Im prone to worry. I worry he only consumes protein when its shaped like a dinosaur. I worry hes not getting enough sleep, or time with friends, or time with me. I worry for the future too whether hell enjoy school, how well pay for college, and whether the planet will be habitable by the time he has kids.Way, way, way down on the list of things I worry about that hell be falsely accused of sexual assault one day. Apparently, Im an outlier.In the wake of the sexual assault allegations raised by Dr. Christine Blasey Ford against Supreme Curt nominee Judge Brett Kavanaugh, however, thats become a significant fear for many moms, according to Fox berichterstattung host Martha MacCallum.I keep hearing from moms of sons, who fear that due process is dead and that if Kavanaugh goes down, it will set an unfair precedent where evidence is unnecessary, she tweeted Friday, after the hea ring where both Dr. Ford and Kavanaugh testified before the Senate Judiciary committee. The tweet has been liked more than 50,000 times.Source TwitterNo matter how you feel about Kavanaugh and Dr. Ford, lets get one thing straight It is exceedingly rare for men to be falsely accused of sexual assault. So rare, in fact, it is more likely that a boy will be sexually assaulted himself than falsely accused of the crime.Just check out the jaw-dropping graphic below from The Enliven Project. Though some news outlets have pointed out problems with the specific data the chart relies on, the broad narrative is depressingly correct Far more rapes are never reported than men are falsely accused. If you have a daughter and a son, it is far more likely your daughter will be a victim of a sexual assault than your son will be a victim of false reporting. This is simply and sadly the world we live in.Admittedly, keeping track of false allegations is notoriously difficult. Experts estimate that some where between 2 to 10 percent of all reports of rape are false. And it is highly unlikely a false charge will end in prison time, Quartz reports. Since 1989, there have only been 52 cases where men convicted of sexual assault were exonerated because it turned out they were falsely accused. By comparison, 790 people were exonerated for murder.False accusations are so rare precisely because of what happens to women who make rape allegations, especially against high-profile men. The world is rife with victim blaming, and they immediately come under intense scrutiny. Was she drinking? Was she out late at night? What welches she wearing? Does she sleep around? Did she make poor choices? Women have very, very little to gain from naming their rapistsa small shot at justiceand often a lot to lose. Their reputation. Their career. Their privacy. Just look at Dr. Ford, who received death threats and had to uproot her family and go into hiding.Thats one big reason why so many rapes go unreporte dtwo out of three, according to the Rape, Abuse Incest National Network (RAINN). If I had a daughter, Id be terribly worried. (And I am worriedand furiouson behalf of little girls everywhere.) One in six American women have been the victim of a rape or attempted rape, and justice is unlikely for them. For every 310 rapes reported to the police, only six rapists will be incarcerated. Six. Rape kits go untested for decades, all across the United States.We have to do better for our girlsby doing better with our boys.I know Im biased, but thats why being the mom of a boy is so special. We have the opportunity to give girls a better world than the one we grew up in, by raising our sons to see women as equals, and to practice consent.Yesterday evening I watched my son playing in the sandbox with a little girl around his age. He clearly coveted her Peppa Pig toys and kept angling closer and closer to the too-tempting figurines. In one of those rare moments of parenting pride, I watched as he asked her, Can I play with that? She didnt understand English, but her body language spoke volumes Back off, buddy. My son sent me an imploring look. I asked her, he said plaintively. Did she say yes? I responded. My son grinned sheepishly and went back to tooling around with his own toys.Sure, I might be reading a bit much into your standard sandbox negotiations, but play is practice for adulthood, after all. Teaching my son to seek affirmative consentyes, even when hes 3is just as important as teaching him to share his toys and cover his mouth when he coughs. He knows he must ask other kids when he wants a hug or a kiss. Do you want to kiss goodbye? He once asked one of his classmates before sharing a liplock. Yes, she said. I shared a bemused glance with the girls father. It was a perfect moment innocent affection, sought and returned.There will come a day, of course, when I wont be around to monitor my sons every affectionate interlude, nor do I want to. (Pass the eyeball bl each, please.) I can only hope the habits he is developing nowbolstered by conversations about the importance of enthusiastic, ongoing, affirmative consent when hes olderwill be so deeply ingrained, he wont think twice about asking for a yes, and leaving when he hears a no.This is a conversation, sadly, only about half of parents are having with their sons. According to a recent survey of teens by PerryUndem, only 53 percent of boys ages 14 to 19 say their parents have talked to them about how to tell if your partner is uncomfortable in a sexual situation. We cant be surprised when they instead pick up dubious notions of consent from pick-up artists, pornography and locker-room whisper networks.As a result, we should be a lot more worried about what were NOT saying to our sons, rather than what a woman might falsely say about them.--This article originally appeared in Working Mother.